8 Powerful Signs You’re Settling for the Wrong Person

You could do worse, but you could do a lot better

Ruth Burrowes
5 min readSep 3, 2021

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Let me guess, you’re feeling unfulfilled in your current relationship?

“But every relationship has its slumps,” you tell yourself. And yet, you’ve got this nagging sense that they’re supposed to feel better than this.

“But relationships are hard. They take work,” you tell yourself. And yet, you feel exhausted, like you’re pushing a boulder uphill alone.

Where is the line?

How do you tell if it’s just a temporary phase or if you’re settling for a poor relationship?

Here are 8 powerful signs.

1. Your relationship only works in the future

The first tell-tale sign that you’re settling is banking on the idea that your partner will change their behavior. Sure, things aren’t great now, but you see potential in them. You string yourself along by telling yourself that you two just need more time together.

Making a wager that someone will change is never a good bet. Sure, behavior modification is possible, but it’s not healthy to expect it from your partner in order for you to feel happy in the relationship.

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Ruth Burrowes
Ruth Burrowes

Written by Ruth Burrowes

Sharing adventures and advice in dating, love, & relationships.

Responses (15)

What are your thoughts?

Needed this, recently single and only now I’m no longer with him do I realise maybe I had settled

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You have a great writing style. I especially like the way you use bullet points and a final summary azt the end of your article. Your content is quite good.

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Oof! The kids are not ok.
And by kids I mean we. We are not ok.
This is all too too real.
Thanks for the raw take!

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